In today’s world, it is proven that having a high IQ or being an expert in a specific subject, does not translate automatically into having professional success or assuring a happy life.
Our society values more and more each time those people who know themselves well, who have a strong sense of self-control, who are emotionally balanced and have a proven empathy.
This is why, since we start educating our children and students at a very young age, we need to set the basis, placing a specific effort in educating the heart and the sensibility of the kids.
The kid will find for the first time the transmission of virtues, coming directly from his parents, in the family environment. These virtues include: organization, strength, generosity, honesty… Later, the kid will put into practice his knowledge of them by establishing social relations.
I want to focus in this point with the purpose of highlighting some aspects in which both, parents and teachers should collaborate so our children and students grow as human beings.
• Teaching them to share. At an early age, kids tend to be very selfish. A good way to open them to the rest of the world is by promoting generosity, which can be started with something as simple as sharing a toy. With time, they will learn to share, playing together with other kids with the same toys.
• Teaching them to play with everybody. We should encourage the kids to let everybody play in their games. Those kids who are extremely shy should be asked to also take part of the game. It is very important that no one feels excluded.
• Teaching them to get things without hitting others. Sometimes, kids are too impulsive and when someone bothers them, they do not hesitate to hit him or kick him. As adults, we should teach them to use words instead of their fists or feet. We can also encourage them to consult and adult to learn what to do. In that case, the adult should never say a phrase like “if they hit you, you can answer and hit them back”.
• Teaching them to apologize and to forgive. Kids should learn to apologize, relating this gesture with a firm commitment of not repeating the action they are apologizing for. Not only by saying “I am sorry” and kissing their parents, things are solved. Kids should also learn from the consequences of their actions. Kids should also forgive from their hearts, so feelings of resentment and revenge are never left on their souls.
• Teaching them to respect others’ properties. So kids know how to go about things, parents and teachers should set limits for them. A very important thing in this area is teaching them to respect others’ goods: always asking for things instead of just taking them.
• Teaching them to respect others. No person is more important than the rest. Everybody has his individual virtues and shortcomings. If we make fun of others, we should never forget they could do the same with us. Sometimes, making the kids think from the other’s perspective really works, asking them how they would feel if that thing would be happening to them.
• Teaching them to recognize the good things others do. Although we tend to focus o the negative, everybody does good things. So, since we are young, it is very healthy to come with the exercise of highlighting the good things others do. It is good to encourage the kids to tell us something positive about their brothers and sisters or about their classmates.
• Teaching them to be loyal with their friends. Little by little, kids should run away from being tattletale, which normally comes from having envy to their brothers or friends. They assume the tattletale role, looking for the adults’ recognition, stating them they are not the ones doing something wrong. What they want is to call our attention, something they should not get. It is important that we do not reinforce that type of conduct.
• Teaching them to not be competitive with others. We should be competitive but with ourselves trying to do things better each day. Kids should not worry too much about what others are doing. They should not compare themselves with others, either. To help them on this, we, adults, should not encourage them to always win or to be the best in something.
• Teaching them to help their friends. We should awake an interest to give to others, and an excellent way of doing this is asking them to help their friends. Teachers and parents can encourage them to teach others in an ability they are good at. For example, teaching others to fold their clothes, to play football…
Some people might think that kids who are in kindergarten are too young to do these things. We should not forget though that we are educating for the future and this early stage is fundamental for the kids to awake, with our help, in key things for their later educational development, like helping others, being good classmates, worrying about their friends…
Teacher of Youth Education
Assists in the Pedagogic Orientation Department
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